Examining dating and frienships
Obviously, abuse issues are a huge red flag and need to be dealt with directly.
The answer is easy: you step in and do whatever it takes to break them up. Okay, we know that answer won’t win the million-dollar prize.
Outsiders (friends) could predict better than insiders (partners themselves) whether the partner's relationship will last.
This is due to disclosures about the relationship from insiders to outsiders.
But unlike death and the universe’s size, picking a life partner is fully in your control, so it’s critical to make yourself entirely clear on how big a deal the decision really is and to thoroughly analyze the most important factors in making it. I’m pretty sure no one over 80 reads Wait But Why, so no matter who you are, that’s a of time—and almost the entirety of the rest of your one existence.
(Sure, people get divorced, but you don’t think you will.
Feelings and intentions that are conveyed by an act are more important than the act itself in close relationships.